… and Sex lost.
If any one still labors under the delusion that males and females are fungible, then you must be a Progressive.
And really, does anyone actually believe Hugh Hefner’s self-absolving, senile rant? A male who hasn’t gotten out of his pajamas for 50-odd years is well-served by sexual freedom libertine attitudes. He was ahead of the curve of the 60’s “hey, I’m a feminist, too … let’s fuck!” male.
And while Gloria Steinem thought him the Prince of Patriarchy, she and her sisters were really his enablers.
Sure, Hugh “exploited” pretty young women, but they are happy to blather how “liberated” and “sexually free” they are. Why should just the boys be able to have sex whenever, wherever and with whomever they like?
Don’t you dare slut-shame the grrrrls!
So again, when husband and I ventured to a divey bar near a college to see his old friend play in a band last Saturday, I could not help but notice the throngs of 20-somethings, the young females dressed in clingy dresses, low-cut and butt-cheek short, tottering bare-legged in 5 inch fuck-me pumps and the young males dressed like slobs. Why should they put forth any effort in wooing a young female? She is eager to serve herself up on platter to prove how hip and with-it she is … Soon with mandated “free” birth control! For her health!
It’s just so depressing. But what better way to keep men and women from committing to each other than to make sex as routine, expected and dull as a luncheon sandwich.
Feature, not bug.
I could not help but notice the throngs of 20-somethings, the young females dressed in clingy dresses, low-cut and butt-cheek short, tottering bare-legged in 5 inch fuck-me pumps
This is useless without pictures.
I have a good imagination. I can almost see it.
Still, pictures would have been nice.
Yeah, the shoes do sound a little slutty.
I’m guessing the rest was simply a rational reaction to Cali’s hot climate. Were they sweaty and hot? I’m definitely imagining them as sweaty and hot.
Men are visually oriented when it comes to sexual attraction. Women seem to key on other things as well which is good for me as without a heaping helping of “other” I’m out of the running.
I’m still waiting for statements from the likes of Mizz Steinam and NOW about the hideous treatment of woman under Islam. I can only imagine the hold up to be in finding just the right nuance.
Sad to see all the girls, some as young as 10 or 12, strolling the streets and malls, even going to school, dressed like cheap tarts in Tijuana.
Where the hell are the parents?
Anytime my contemporaries laud Heffner and confess envy of the man, I remind them that he admits to having had dicks in his mouth in the 70s.
Usually cures what ails them.
Any one of those women could have you on the sex offender registry tomorrow, if she decides she made a mistake by going home with you. If you’re smart, you treat it as a very sexy museum — look, but don’t touch.
[…] Darleen notes: Why should they [mmenboys] put forth any effort in wooing a young female? She is eager to serve herself up on platter to prove how hip and with-it she is … Soon with mandated “free” birth control! For her health! […]
the difference between Hugh Hefner’s sensibilities and those of our US Secret Service sluts is vanishingly small really
A little OT as regards fashion and going to the Club: I was watching old movies a few months ago and ended up watching “Saturday Night Fever”. The way the kids in that movie dress is the way I remember dressing to go to the Club: nice dress, stockings, heels. The guys were in slacks, polyester shirts (time forgives, all), and had nice haircuts.
No one was binge drinking, there were a few drugs, some casual sex, but for the most part those were the tarts, not the “nice” girls.
“Nice” girls at the Club nowadays? Not so much.
It may have been polyester, but they looked somewhat sharply dressed. Nice shoes, too.
“Kids these days! When I was young, we’d never have dared to leave the house looking like that! And the dancing they do! Scandalous!”
– Every non-young person, every where, every year, since ever.
[…] this kind of talk keeps up, people will start talking about the consequences of pre-marital sexual activity. Stacy McCain, call your […]
‘Old movies’ like ‘Saturday Night Fever’? From the era of my high school days? Old?
And here I was thinking of movie titles like “Casablanca” when the topic of old movies came up.
Thanks, Leigh.
I think I’ll shuffle to the store, see if they have any ‘Geritol”, down it in one shot, and debate with myself on whether or not I should step out in front of the next cement truck that comes along.
Oh, be quiet. I graduated from high school in 1976, Gramps. I’ll see your “old” and raise you a “whippersnapper”.
“Kids today! Sheesh!”
—Socrates
Ha! 1977 for me.
Suddenly I feel a kick in my step again! Damn the Geritol, full speed ahead to the beer section.
Ain’t it funny though, how time flies and perceptions change?
My 10 year old asked me what a French kiss is. I vomited on her.
I am so glad I only had sons. Boys are easier because they’ll tell you anything. Girls? Lying liars what lie for the sake of lying.
Yeah, the French are pretty gross.
My 10 year old asked me what a French kiss is.
Did you explain about the hairy armpits and the weekly bath, JD?
In other War on Sex news, I bring you the #sandraflukeengagementregistry, much of which is NSFW.
“Leftist Feminists started the ‘War on Sex’ . . . ”
I blame Thurber and White.
I blame a certain subtil serpent and Eve for the war on sex.
War on sex? No one tells me anything.
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blame
bush
Heh
…tottering bare-legged in 5 inch fuck-me pumps
My wife and I were late getting to Mass on Easter Sunday. The Church, normally about 1/3 full was (of course) packed. So we ended up seated in the front pew. So during Communion we got to see a parade of the entire congregation at arms length.
The first thing we both commented on when we got back to the car was the shoes. And not just those worn by the obvious teens and college students, but the ones worn by clearly middle aged moms. It was stiletto FMPs and skirts too short to safely genuflect as far as the eye could see.
During mass I was thinking back to something I heard a priest say during pre-cana. He said beauty was natural, and that the first look was for God, but it was the second look that was a sin.
Hard times for an honest man.
“Is that Tootie Green?”
I’m usually taken aback by the attire of some of the teens at Mass, ThomasD. Booty shorts are now church-going clothing?
Some time ago, one of my friends alerted me to some old videos on youtube of a fraternity party that we were probably at, – judging by all the cameos friends of ours made – and I gotta say that the preppy androgyny was really hot!
After going from a high school and college full of girls in khaki pants and LL Bean sweaters to a city where no one owned a fucking article of clothing that wasn’t black, I kind of welcome our new slutty girl overlords.
The slutty girls themselves don’t phase me much. As others noted, kids will be kids. Even if the parents try to rein them in they are still up against a vast array of other inputs.
It’s the way the whole look has permeated through society, all the way up to the slutty moms. Who I assume have no clue just how silly they look trying not to walk like ultra high heels make you walk.
And don’t mind their clueless (or spineless) husbands. I mean, I like it when my wife gets all hawt for date night, but if she dressed that way on Sunday mornings I’d feel more than a little strange standing next to her.
Yeah, I don’t really understand getting all sexed up for church. Throwing on sweatpants and a t-shirt doesn’t strike me as particularly appropriate either. It’s been years since I went to church aside from weddings, funerals et al, but I do remember when the words “wearing your Sunday best” actually meant something.
Well, I grew up on an island in SW Florida. Shorts were considered tolerable Church wear (but not to my mom.) At least on ordinary Sundays.
I can imagine the brutal heat of South Florida causing people to adapt accordingly. I’ve never really understood why wearing shorts to go out at night in Miami is frowned upon though.
The ‘club thing’ in Fl that always used to annoy me was the collared shirt rule. I cannot count the number of times my good times were rudely and abruptly ended. Show up early, when business is slow and nobody cares. Next thing you know it’s 8 or 9 PM and the night manager gets on the bouncer for letting you linger in your beachwear.
Of course, if the shitheads were smart enough to sell polo’s instead of t-shirts they could have made even more money off me, but no….
The place where I notice people dressing down more than I expect is at dinner. People around here go for a pricier steak dinner wearing flip flops and t-shirts. I still have a hard time not wearing a jacket to dinner.
One strong male argument for dressing up a bit more is that it’s much easier to look good wearing slacks, buttoned shirt and a jacket than it is to figure out more casual clothes. Maybe that’s not true for all guys but I’ve never had much of a clue on which shoes, jeans, or casual shirts are in style unless a woman just does it for me.
I fully agree that it is always better to err on the side of being over dressed. The other plus is that, at least in my current region, it still brings some added respect and appreciation. There have been more than a couple times in the recent past where I suspect we’ve been seated sooner, and/or got a better table because we looked the part.
Whoever invented Casual Fridays needs to be hung out to dry. If I’m paying a lawyer mega-bucks an hour, I want him in a suit and tie. Same with bankers and I also want my doctors to dress up like they give a damn. I don’t care if most of their patients are hicks. Are the patients setting the dress code?
I’ve always thought that a little card you could hand the hostess declaring your party’s intentions to order a couple rounds of drinks would also work like a charm, ThomasD.
If you’re worrying about style and casual wear, I suggest a large purse of cloth, not leather. ;-)
Are the patients setting the dress code?
Actually they sometimes do. When I lived in MT and ID I’d wear a button down collared shirt, along with a pair of Carhartts (and not a hint of irony.) This really did go over better with most people, who had a fair mistrust of anyone dressed too well.
Now that I’m back east I only wear those pants when I’m working in the shop/yard.
What’s cool about jeans and cowboy boots? In style and appropriate everywhere.
What’s weird in places like New York is that how you’re dressed is so secondary to what you’re wearing. Shoes and watches tend to be what gatekeepers and the like draw conclusions from.
In AZ everyone wore cowboy boots, actual riders usually wore ropers or (rarely) packers. Up in MT and ID you’d occasionally see packers, but almost no western riding boots, and certainly not on anyone who actually rode (sneakers typically.)
They always were when I was in sales. Timex? Let’s check your credit, pal.
Heh Leigh, the thing seems to earn me more funny looks than anything else is that my cell phone only makes phone calls.
Might as well be waving an EBT card…
I wear motorcycle boots a lot, and after all these years I’m still waiting for them to not make my feet hurt.
The problem with boots for me is that the heel takes me from noticeably tall to an annoying topic that every new person has to mention to me right off the bat.
I have no such problem, bh. If I was noticeably tall, I’d probably also have an 120 mph fastball and you’d know me from the TV.
I hear ya, ThomasD. I still have an old school cell and not a smartphone since I only make cell calls on mine.
One thing I’ve noticed here in Tiny Town, is that I seem to be one of the few who doesn’t wear sneakers except to the gym or to play tennis. I wear loafers or if I’m dressed up, heels. Although, as bh noted, flip-flops (which were for the beach or oogy public showers) now are everywhere and replacing sneakers. I don’t want to see most peoples toes, thanks.
I don’t have many fashion pet peeves, but women who wear sneakers to and from work with their business clothes look like bleeping morons.
My peeve is short sleeves and a tie.
Have I linked these shoes before? Hands down the best commuting shoe I’ve ever worn.
And, for your pet peeve, they have a women’s line.
Yeah. That’s a horrible look.
leigh, if you are paying mega-bucks an hour, not only will I wear a suit and tie, I’ll even take the Oklahoma bar and make house calls.
(If you’ve never heard of them, they’re business on the outside and Nike Air on the inside.)
I’m pretty sure I’ve had Cole-Haan shoes before. I don’t think they were of the mullet variety though. More like non-tassled penny loafers.
Ecco is my go to shoe for business on the outside, comfort on the inside.
I have Cole-Haan’s and LL Beans. Hate the short sleeves and a tie look. That and a cheap looking belt tells you you aren’t dealing with someone who is successful at what they do.
No one has mention blue suits with brown shoes. Or double-vented suit jackets on guys who don’t need to make their ass look less fat.
I have apparently passed on my snobbish ways of dress to my boys who wear chinos and polos and loafers most of the time. And Levi jeans and ironic tee shirts to school with Chuck Taylor’s.
I recently bought some craftsman bib overalls to wear at work. Gunna buy more too, MAN those are comfortable!
Also, Redwings all the way. They’ve never hurt my feet in thirty years.
Oh, and if’in ya caint keep yer woman barefoot, flip flops in public is alright.
You’d fit right in around here, Lee. Flip-flop wearin’ wimmin abound, usually accompanied by bare-foot kids.
Doc Martens are by far the most comfortable shoes I’ve ever owned. But I wore them for so long that when my last pair finally died it just felt too 1990’s to buy them again.
You know whats kinda freak’in me out is all the dumbasses wearing their damn pajamas in public.
What’s up with that?
I used to send them home the year I taught high school. They’d have a shit fit, but I told them “If I have to get dressed to go out of the house; so do you.”
I felt ridiculous being outside in pajamas when my apartment building was ENGULFED IN FLAMES. Why anyone would choose to dress like that in public is beyond me.
When I was a kid I had three categories of clothes … school, play and Sunday. And heaven forfend I mix any of them up. :-)
Seriously though, I think the clothes are a symptom not the disease. It just seems that so-called “sexual liberation” has been a kick-in-the-teeth for women. The slutty grrrrls seemed almost desperate in catching the attention of jaded, slobby boys.
It’s as if boys have internalized that girls are little more than accessories – marriage being something to avoid – and girls are trying to agree but deep down they still want a husband and family.
You know whats kinda freak’in me out is all the dumbasses wearing their damn pajamas in public.
Yep, it isn’t just for the People of Walmart.
the key is to wear doc martins with your pajamas
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As an ironworker, Carharts and Redwings were standard.
Carhart is probably the highest quality clothing I’ve ever owned. Whenever I think of workboots I still think of that first Chicago winter when I was walking around in canvas steel toes because I was too cheap to spend the money on actual winter boots.
Darleen, back to your initial premise – sex did not lose out. Plain old sex can be had by single cell organisms, wild animals and humans, among others. What lost out is the specialness, perhaps sanctity, of sex between two committed human beings.
I realize that I have now turned into an old fuddy-duddy, because my earlier years trended toward a more mercenary view on the subject. The biological imperative is strong; I think the perspective is what separates us from the animals.
Carhart is probably the highest quality clothing I’ve ever owned.
Amen to that. I have a Carhartt jacket that has been owned by all three of my boys and is still in good shape. I use it like a barn jacket now that I’m the only one it fits. It’s actually too big for me, but I can wear a bulky sweater under it and not feel like I’m in a straight jacket.
Yep. A good pair of riding boots are pretty spendy, you don’t want to wear them out walking around on concrete sidewalks so you slip on a pair of WalMart sneakers when you get off the horse. Not to mention that the riding boots are covered with green stuff you don’t want to track on the carpets.
But here in Wyoming we do have a strange subset who put on their shitkickers and spurs to drive their pickup to town. Ever drive a vehicle with spurs on? Ever walk down a flight of stairs with spurs on? It can be done but it’s ackward as hell. Not to mention that you’re advertising that your horse isn’t worth a shit and you need spurs to get him to move. I don’t pretend to fathom this ‘never take the spurs off’ thing. Weird it is. The cowboy equivalent of nipple piercing — hurts like hell and has no conceivable purpose.
The cowboy equivalent of nipple piercing
Heh. I had a patient who wore her spurs all.the.time. I’ll bet if she could have worn them to bed, she would have. Perhaps she did.
Steyn on newrouter’s 6pm.
Volokh has a number of commentors claiming this report is bogus. No proof; just assertion on their part.
More assertions.
If by “ahead of the curve” you mean not doing anything that George Bernard Shaw and H.G. Wells hadn’t already done long before.
geoffb, not that I really want to know, but the bit about a woman having the same right to have sex with her dead husband? Unless they mean “defile his buggering corpse” I don’t understand how that can eve be possible.
And Volokh and his crew are a bunch of wankers.
Both rand503 and pseudonymouslawyer show as having never commented at Volokh until they placed back to back comments denying that any such law was being considered by the Muslim brotherhood in Egypt.
There is a gay activist using the handle rand503 at FDL. There is a pseudonymouslawyer blog but nothing has been posted there since it was started in May 2008.
It would have been useful if these two had posted links to support the assertions they made. Lawyers usually like to back up their assertions with some evidence.
I will assert that the whole of the Mideast is rife with more conspiracy theories and belief in “truthiness” than our farthest out lefty. Doesn’t mean that there are some can’t be true however.
i fuck dead people
TMI!!
that was opposed to be a riff on “i see dead people”
fail
For leigh, and probably TMI too.
it hurts so much
to be in love with a masterpiece
I thought you were singing Alice Cooper.
Let Dan work that one out…