Let’s just finally come out and say it, shall we? All penetration is rape
When a penis enters a vagina, I mean. Not when you get a splinter, or when a thermometer enters your ear. Though those too, are debatable instances of rape — if you happen to be a woman, and the broken bit of wood or the thermometer happen to be shaped like angry dicks.
But for the time being, let’s just stay focused:
First, well intercourse is NEVER sex for women. Only men experience rape as sexual and define it as such. Sex for men is the unilateral penetration of their penis into a woman (or anything else replacing and symbolising the female orifice) whether she thinks she wants it or not – which is the definition of rape: that he will to do it anyway and that he uses her and treats her as a receptacle, in all circumstances – it makes no difference to him experiencing it as sexual. That is, at the very least, men use women as useful objects and instruments for penetration, and women are dehumanised by this act. It is an act of violence.
If we look at the act in more detail (skip this parag if you can’t take it), PIV is a man mounting on a woman to thrust a large member of himself into her most intimate parts, often forcing her to be entirely naked, banging himself against her with the whole weight of his body and hips, shaking her like he would stuff a corpse, then using her insides as a receptacle for his penile dejection. How is this a normal civilised, respectful way to treat anyone? Sorry for the explicit picture, but this is what it is and it’s absolutely revolting and violating.
The term “fuck you” is not an insult for nothing, men know why – it’s the worst thing you can do to a human being. It is in itself an extremely physically invasive act, very often painful, generally at the beginning before the pain may be cut off by the genital arousal; causes all sorts of tears, bruises, swelling, discomfort, STDs, vaginal infections, urinary infections, genital warts, HIV and death. Not to forget the additional sado-gynecological interventions/ costs of PIV-maintenance, and all the secondary physical mutiliation [sic] and financial costs that go with our duty to make ourselves look decorative for male sexual consumption – such as hair removal, make-up, starvation or forced feeding, torturous limb deforming or cutting up, etc.
The fact intercourse causes so many infections and tears and warts attests to the unnaturalness of intercourse, that it’s not meant to be. The vagina’s primary function isn’t to be penetrated by a penis but to eject a baby for birth. They are two muscle tissues / sphincters pressed against each other to help the baby be pushed out. Penetration of the penis into the vagina is completely unnecessary for conception.
Lookit: there are all sort of snide things I could offer in response to something as profoundly moronic and evolutionarily untenable as this — from the suggestion that the author evidently was too busy drawing orchids during biology to pay attention to some of its more important classroom lessons to the observation that somewhere there’s an attic missing its madwoman, or a room missing its yellow wallpaper.
Too, I could make the more academic argument that the “argument”, such as it is, is itself tendentious inasmuch as it requires one to accept the premise that penetration is an act of violence in order to “prove” that violence is the result of acts of penetration — that is, that the frame is the picture and the picture is the frame.
Instead, I’d rather just quote my wife, who — though married to a sexual predator and rapist like me (and so already a sufferer of false consciousness, if not an all out co-conspirator in the systemic subjugation and dehu-person-izing of womyn), and though she carries a degree in Women’s Studies herself — was much more to the point, with respect to the author of the piece, when she reacted thus: “Sounds like someone who hasn’t been properly fucked.”
Which, it’s hard to argue with that.
(h/t Amy Otto via Twitter)